Outward in self analysis

Hi All,

Good day to you. I was so stressed up and disoriented few days back and felt I would explode if I didn’t talk to someone, as always, my friend was there for my rescue, His wisdom soothed my eerie feelings and helped me see things in far better light. It was indeed an eye opening session, I felt ashamed of myself for being so naïve to be cynical and disheartened. I listed my reasons for frustrations he told me to take a bird`s eye view of what Iam doing and it seems to him I have shrunk my thoughts towards a few things? you need to do a real self examination of urself ? you are looking inward out look from outward in...I would say the best piece of advice I have ever received, I did that…. I looked at my reflection from outside……stunned to see the truth.

I always used to think Iam doing the right things, I always used to expect attention and care from my spouse in return of my love for him, I used to scream shriek and yell when things are not going according to my liking. His words did rang a bell…. he said if you are expecting.. you DO NOT have love, love is unconditional, and if there is expectation... its conditional...its is not love. He continued to my surprise you are frustrated for no reason ... and you are possessive for no reason, and that makes u look only to the negative side of life ... while so many positives are happening around.

He shot the prescription for me quickly write down 20 positive things in your life everyay for the next 30 days its normal for us to get in to the garbage of our lives ... yes we need to work yes we need to do the chores at home yes we need to slog but what is it for we are doing it ? if that is quite clear , you can easily get going...we need to have perseverance, in life we need to appreciate the god things that our partner does and what they require is encouragement not to point the issues.

Its so stupid of me to keep on trying to change the ways of my spouse, how much damage I would have done to him through all the endless fights and screams, yes now I see a lot of positive sides in my spouses side, he is cool headed, how come I mistook it for indifference, not even a single trouble would affect him, where I would get worried for no reasons, he is capable, he is technically very adept, why I want him to be a book worm while he always had a way to tackle realities, he found his new job with no time, he is capable and good in his field, why did I fail to notice that….. I was reminded of the play Hayavadhana by Girish Karnad, where the wife yearns for perfection, exchanges the physical and intellectual faculties of two persons and how it ruins their happiness and make them realize the futility of searching for perfection.

These words from my friend, whom I know for years whom I judged to be a perfectionist startled me imperfect things are beautiful if we do things like how car is made , then life is not interesting anymore why is painting beautiful coz its imperfect ... and there are lot of unknown thing that we could see you will see how blessed you are ...

I had to agree to him, then he asked me sarcastically but you r what ? frustrated? angry ?
No, no I have corrected him iam blessed

Then he continued remember if you get angry about something, youu do not have love for that person...coz anger is a emotion, and love is an emotion when anger supercedes love ... that’s when we get angry before you get angry change the perspective of how the other person would be feeling when you get angry with that person and then you u would feel that things need to be changed from your end. Change always starts from within and we need to keep doing the change, so that we become better…..when you stop doing it remember we aren’t growing mentally, spiritually and mutually.

Iam almost in tears when he finished. So I would like to thank my friend for reinforcing the truths about relationship that got fogged by troubled situations, and I want to tell my spouse a big sorry for all my naive ness, I love you more than anything in this world, you are still a gem of a guy my dear husband!

My wish list garnished with fantasy

Hi All,

Good day to you thought of writing something to elevate all your spirits especially in the backdrop of relatively calm and quiet past weekend. Wish all of you had a lovely and relaxing weekend.

I was thinking about my friend’s theory about achieving things in life, he tells me; you can attract the targeted wish towards you, if you yearn for it with full heart and work for it, the gravitating power of mind is unbeatable. So as all the inspirational writers suggests, I started the first step, writing down the dreams and goals, here are some of my wish list for 2009

Writing a novel ( though I have not started it and every weekend I write down on my things to remember list to compile all my poems and writings, so far that never materialized, but Iam too advanced in my thinking that I started fancying me with the award in hand received for my literary debut, LOL)

Taking a shower in Rain The childhood memories of playing and splashing water in rain with my siblings creeps back and a sudden urge to unwind and immerse with this beautiful form of nature pops up, but when will it rain in Dubai, all I could see is the scorching sun, even if it rains all I could do is to watch and admire the beauty and rhythm of rain through the sealed window of my apartment.

Owning a sewing machine I love to stich and create new designs with fabrics, combining different colors and festooning it with extra ordinary stuffs, I imagine wearing outfits designed and stiched by me and look at my own reflection, so far my designs and layouts take rest in my own PC.

Looking at the sea at moonlight I love to watch and play with the waves, like school kids punches and kicks each other funnily, I feel the same affinity and fun in kicking its strong current and gliding along. I wish my spouse to pick up this habit of gazing at the sea so I could go to the seaside quite often.

An Atlas and a wall hanging world map I love traveling and the recession raided situation prompts me to get compromised with the Atlas for the time being, I love looking at the continents, like a butterfly I sways and admire each continent, its greeneries and waters marked on the world map.

Recreating all the wonderful places I have seen in my dreams All the strange and lovely sceneries appeared in my endless series of dreams, either through words or through paintings. Little bit confused on selecting the right medium.


So start jotting down your wish list right now itself, and stick it somewhere close and visible to you, each time you look up you will be reminded and feel the urge to have it no matter what happens…….and please let me know your musings!

Recession packed thoughts

Hi All,
First of all let me apologise for not updating my blog for such a long time, I wish to put the blame mostly to recession than to my laziness, could very well say that I have been undergoing the recession reveries especially in the backdrop where family delusions spiced up my being in this hot and humid city of wonder , I can sum it up like this unintentionally my beloved spouse fell ill and had to see his job saying good bye to him in the pretext of recession, joining in his woes and extending the warm hand of support and preparing the challenging plan of actions to fight all the odds, it took almost all my energy, when the expenses equations broke to an alarming rate, I have started realizing the true worth of financial dependence other than the emotional dependence in a relationship, a series of happenings in my life, and one more thing I have realized the fun in having a frugal living , an eye opener, helped me see the shallowness of people, helped me find the genuine people who would really stick to you and would lend you an ear to listen to your true feelings.

Ideas come and go as how to decently earn some extra bucks to tide this short period of delusionary phase of my life, here Iam with an underpaid job which gives me security and lot of creative exposure, thinking everyday hard as how to bring changes that would bring hope, happiness and coziness to my life. How would I utilize my talents that would help me pay for the bill that’s the question? Freelance writing; is it a nice option? What do you guys think?

My wish list gets longer and longer and I devise my dreams and plans list diligently waiting for a day patiently when I would grab my opportunities and emerge successful once again, like a phoenix coming out from the ashes, so fancy you all have reached where you wanted to be, wishing you all a satisfying and a true professional working week ahead!

Lovingly and trying to recession proofingly yours!

PS

This week I join my husband to listen to all Michael Jackson numbers, my husband used to love his songs and dance to the tunes always, a true and ardent fan of the pop star so let us pay a tribute to this legendary singer this way!

A prayer to God for smartlife

Good day to you all!
One of the very brightest and pleasant day in my life, to wake up in the morning with a feeling that you are not alone in this world, how fulfilling and sweet is that feeling, I would like to thank the Almighty for granting me this day to enjoy the bliss of meeting my soulmate after a traumatic, temporary yet long seperation.

This is a thanks giving week to me to remember and praise the divine power, who decides and sets the role and happenings in ones life, I think troubles in life are a blessing in disguise, you tend to scrutinise your actions, you realise your limitations and it makes you more bold and make you get closer to God. I strongly believe that having great faith in God too is a way to smartlife.

A prayer to God
I thank God for giving me this wonderful lifethough it is flavored sweet and sour
I thank God for showing me the right paththe path that is hidden to sinners
I thank God for testing me with trials cos I can see a beatiful resting bench waiting for me afar
I thank God for showing in me love, hatred, impatience, naiveness, maturity, passion and the facets of me with its true variations

I thank God for each moment, as he taught me its real meaning
Let me love the mystery of tomorrow today with yesterdays finer moments!

Wishing you all a holy and spiritually uplifting weekend ahead!

Oscar winners 2009- Hats off to AR Rahaman

A great and unforgettable moment for Indians to feel proud of, our beloved Mozart of Madras has made it, bagging two Oscars , and he took Indian film music to the mainstream American audience, once again he proved that music is beyond racial discrimination or any barriers, color, culture nothing comes in the way for a universal rhythm.

This soft spoken, down to earth artist who is entertaining us for more than a decade and unraveled so much memorable melodies to Indian and overseas audience. Let me tell you all frankly I still consider his debut "Roja" as his masterpiece, and then songs from Bombay, Dilse the list of my favorite scores will go on and on.

As everyone is putting it “slumdog millionaire" is the flavour of the season, the tale of underdogs, an emotional story in a thriller format which successfully captured the fancy of the Hollywood, has swept the 2009Oscar awards total 8 Oscars out of 10 nominations.

Billions of Indians are seeing this recognition as a stepping stone for future collaborations between Indo- US film industry , India's non commercial films that are truly artistic have always earned good recognition and gained acceptance in other parts of the world, if we reel back to the proud lineage which produced veterans like Satyajith rai . I believe India can really utilise this exposure to American film Industry to more international acclamations in the coming years.


The state of Kerala can boast about its intellectual and artistic legacy, kudos to Resul Pookutty. My heartfelt congratulations to you Mr. AR Rahman, Mr Gulzar and Mr.Resul
Of course to Mr. Danny Boyle as well who made this dream come true.


Winners from the 2009 Oscars

Best supporting actress: Penelope Cruz - Vicky Cristina Barcelona
Best original screenplay: Milk
Best adapted screenplay: Slum dog Millionaire
Best animated feature film: Wall-E
Best animated short film: La Maison en Petits Cubes
Art direction: The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
Costume design: The Duchess
Make-up: The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
Cinematography: Slumdog Millionaire
Best live action short film: Spielzeugland (Toyland)
Best supporting actor: Heath Ledger - The Dark Knight
Best documentary feature: Man on Wire
Best documentary short subject: Smile Pinki
Visual effects: The Curious Case of Benjamin Button
Sound editing: The Dark Knight
Sound mixing: Slumdog Millionaire
Film editing: Slumdog Millionaire
Best original score: Slumdog Millionaire
Best original song: 'Jai Ho' - Slumdog Millionaire
Best Director: Danny Boyle - Slumdog Millionaire
Best foreign language film: Departures - Japan
Best Actress: Kate Winslet - The Reader
Best Actor: Sean Penn - Milk
Best Picture: Slumdog Millionaire

Dear readers please share your views on the Oscar results with me, wishing you all a fun filled week ahead!

Friends for a smart life

Good day to all!

On the way back home I was casually chatting with my colleague, usual trivia’s about relationship, friendship and when my friend wondered about having a friendship where you convey your thoughts without the aid of words or actions, I asked whether she was referring a kind of a spiritual synchronization. She said yes, Emotional compatibility is the perfect word for it, something that binds you with another person, the ability to sense the needs and emotions of a person depends largely on how well you sync with that persons overall personality.

Her query made me think a bit deeper about relationships, making and maintaining friends is really an art, it needs patience, care and time, there are some friends who fails to get to know your true spirit, there are friends whose ideas you find it difficult to digest, there are friends with whom you don’t get closer, but with some you pour your heart out, there are people who respect your individuality, there are friends who enrich your life there are some who make your life a hell, and the list is endless. Friendship has got different manifestations; one can find a friend in parents, spouses, siblings, relatives and colleagues or even in a complete stranger.

Friendship is something that stand beyond boundaries cast or creed, distance gender race nothing comes as a hindrance to true friendship, I feel each person or friend is like an interesting book once you read it you look for a new book but still cherish the content and memories in the book, old friends are like a good atlas when you are not sure of which route to take and falter for the right word that is at the tip of your tongue, look for the atlas you can get in touch with them to refresh your old memories and can calculate the distance you have traveled so far.

I must say friends are good universities you learn a lot from them, I don’ think I should blabber long to make you doss off, let me tell you True and intense friendship is really a blessing, I think there is a divine link that bridges the minds of buddies, so dear readers pick up your phone and dial you friends number that you haven’t used for a long time Or jot down a short mail now, send it and see its magical effect, so wishing you all a friendly, fulfilling and rekindling week ahead!


Don’t forget to write back to me with you thoughts on friendship!

Valentines Day thoughts

Hi guys,
Aren’t you excited about Valentines Day, I is so near? Iam very much indeed, Notes of romance and sweetness are in the air adding a magic touch to the winter season, now iam getting nostalgic about those wonderful memories attached with that special day in my life back home. I still remember the day in which we a bunch of Business management students organised the event " Dieren" the event conducted at one of the best halls in town, after pooling money, the preparations we had for the big day, the lovely looking ticket designed in the most romantic way by my friend who has a natural flair for designing, though we were amateurs my friends managed to bring good DJS, the melodious romantic bits played for the audience still echoing in my ears.

Some were pretty worried about its success and the whole affair but they sold the tickets pretty well, they managed to broke even I guess, the first practical assignment to put management theories into practice. That event co-ordination is something that remains closer to my heart. Everyone in my batch were pulling my leg by asking why I was thrilled without having a valentine , I was wearing a fully white outfit groomed to perfection, I smiled and declared iam celebrating this day with my valentine who used to come to my dream and I am waiting for him to turn up, truly that happened after few years , the day when my husband came to my workplace to see me, after one year of courtship we got married and so far we have celebrated three valentines days together, the fourth one is approaching and I feel the distance will make that days celebration bit more special. You start realizing the worth of a person when that is person is not around.


So everyone make the most out of the day, don’t forget to gift your lover/spouse/the loved ones a wonderful gift, do share your valentines memories here with me

Iam heading to Dubai to have a look at candy/ flowers/gifts displayed there to be exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. So my weekend will be rich with the thoughts on this mysterious saint, I must say St. Valentine you are so sweet!